Beyond Perfectionism

In a community of high-achievers, the unrealistic pressures that teens put on themselves can leave them feeling as though nothing they do ever measures up to their ideal. If unchecked, the drive to be “perfect”—intellectually, socially, physically—can lead to a perilous spiral.

On February 27 at Winsor, an exceptional panel of experts will join us for an engaging evening. Together, we’ll explore how we can create healthier and more balanced perceptions of success for our children—and ourselves.  

Titled “Perils of Perfectionism,” the timely program was developed by the Winsor Parents’ Association in collaboration with all of us on the Wellness Department faculty. As panel moderator, I want to extend an invitation to every adult in our school’s community.

Our panelists will help you to see the issue through a holistic lens. They include:

Dr. Paula Chu, a psychotherapist in private practice as well as the associate director of the Stanley King Counseling Institute;

Dr. Robyn Glover, a licensed psychologist specializing in neuropsychological and educational assessment of children, adolescents, and young adults and a consultant for Winsor;

Dr. Areej Hassan, an attending physician in the Division of Adolescent/Young Adult Medicine at Boston Children’s Hospital, an assistant professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School, and also Winsor’s consulting doctor; and

Dr. Olivia Moorehead-Slaughter, a licensed clinical child psychologist with more than 30 years of experience working schools and across a range of settings with children, adolescents, families, and adults.

The questions we’ll address include:

  • What messages are we giving them? How do we all (parents, teachers, mentors, coaches) contribute to the issue of perfectionism? How can we do better?
  • How do differences in identity (culture, race, gender, sexual orientation, etc.) impact our students’ idea of perfection?
  • How can we foster in our students a greater sense of self-compassion?